Yoga With A Baby

Have you seen those videos of people doing yoga and their pets are climbing on them? It's funny right? Well, while my kitty did supervise, it was my daughter who climbed all over me. Still adorable and funny. She gets so excited when people are on the ground with her. She even has her own version of downward dog.

 She does this all the time and it cracks us up. There is never a dull moment with this little girl. Please excuse the messy living room, or not. I have two small children and most of the time I just don't care. Cleaning with small children around is like trying to dry your car off with a towel while it's raining. I have better things to do than keep my house looking like a better homes and gardens magazine. It's called living, playing with my kids, or being lazy. It's great.

Anyway, I'm really proud of myself for accomplishing the yoga this morning. I've reached my goal weight post baby, but looking at my body, I certainly don't look it, and the size of my clothes are not changing. Weird, right?
I HATE EXERCISE. But, I found that I do enjoy yoga. So, yoga it is. If only I could manage to do it on a regular basis, which I still can't. I am the queen of procrastination when it comes to exercising or anything on a regular, scheduled basis. It's amazing I manage to get anything done. If I somehow got my act together and was organized and efficient I think I could rule the world.

Don't worry, World. That is unlikely to happen. But I am trying. I've reorganized my files, gotten a planner to keep track of things I need to do on a day by day basis. I'm taking things one day at a time. Small goals and small steps work for me.

Today's goals are:

• Yoga 
• Blog post
• Edits on Mine, All Mine *
• Stay off The Debil (aka Facebook) until after 6pm.

*Mine, All Mine is the first book I ever wrote and as I prepare it for print I'm doing a little rewriting. Nothing major, just basics like my overuse of the word nearly and junk like that. I cringe when I read it and I don't want to feel that way. Every author has a first book that is rough around the edges. I've learned so much since I wrote that book that I just need to fix some errors and clean it up. It represents me and I want it to shine like it should. The e-book version will be updated once I'm finished, too.

Wish me luck with my goal list and I hope you have a happy Friday. Youtube Yoga With Adriene if you are interested in trying some yoga. She is really fun and quirky.

I want to spend my life time loving you...

If that is all in life I ever do...

Tonight I took a trip back to 1998 and watched The Mask of Zorro, much to my 4yr old's chagrin. It took some convincing, pretend sword fighting, and enthusiastic shouts of Zorro! He was dead set on watching Minuscule, a cute movie about a Ladybug. Ugh. Can I get a little romance please?!

I don't get to watch this stuff when the hubs is home. But, I got my movie and I got my Antonio Banderas fix. I love this movie and I especially love the song at the end. It's sung by Tina Arena and Marc Anthony. It encompasses everything I love about romance, falling in love, the racing heartbeat, the amplified emotions. I can feel it all at once in one song and it makes my muse go crazy with ideas. It's like a drug and I can't get enough of it. I want to spend my life loving, being in love, giving love, spreading love. That is my gift. That is my purpose.

In fact today, on Facebook of all places, I heard a very enlightening speech from Jim Carey about what we give to the world. Maybe I was meant to hear it, because there is a hefty amount of doubt and ridicule that comes with being a romance writer. What I do may seem small and insignificant, but it isn't. Jim Carey gives laughter to the world and that is precious. I give love. Through books I give love. Does that sound ridiculous? Probably, but to me it isn't. I can't count the hours I've spent reading romance but each of them are valuable to me. Those were hours I forgot about unhappiness and sadness. Hours I smiled instead of crying. Hours I spent unaware of my loneliness. If I can do that for someone else I have done something vitally important.

Please enjoy the song and if you haven't seen the movie, watch it!

                         

Writer(s): James Horner, Will Jennings
Copyright: Tsp Music Inc., Blue Sky Rider Songs, Triple Star Music Inc., Horner Music

Wanted: Time Traveling DeLorean.

Where does time go? It's been far too long since I made a blog post and that just proves that I'm still the weakest link in this one woman show. It's not that I haven't been busy. I've been extremely busy, and I did finish a book, but I've also been moving and attempting some success at another venture.
What I've learned is that there really is no such thing as multitasking.

I need to be better at my business, and my business is writing and publishing.  I haven't been pushing myself. I'm still on the fringes of success with a small readership and that means there is no real demand for my work.

I have to cultivate that demand and it starts with me. I need this. My family needs this. I write for myself but also for the financial stability of my family. This is my job and I need to get better at treating it as such. That means more time, not just writing but promoting. I suck at promotion. That has to change. How will I reach readers if I make no effort to put my face and my books out there?

I've talked a lot about discipline and I'm still struggling with it. I've discovered that small achievable goals take me further than lofty ones.  So where do I begin? I need a small goal to achieve every morning. Once I manage that then I will set daily goals, then weekly, monthly etc. Goals like a daily word count, posting one promotional thing each day. Small steps that ultimately make a big impact.
At the end of the day when time has run out, I only have myself to blame for what I did and didn't do for my business.

-Ella

Be Grateful

 When I see pics/posts like this one to the left on Facebook I almost always roll my eyes and scroll by. Believe me, I am grateful for what I have. I worked hard for it. I've sacrificed, I've scrimped, and I've gone without. I've lived through my rock bottom and I came out on the other side humbled and determined. So, forgive me if I sneer at these sort of things. I haven't been seeing them in the right light.

Today I came across a pin on Pinterest that caught my eye. 101 Ways to Build the Writer Platform of Your Dreams. This pin leads to the site yourwriterplatform.com and a list of 39 Things to Remember While Building Your Writing Career. I love finding  bits of info like this through Pinterest. There is always room for improvement. #26 is what shook my tree today.

Change "I have to" to "I get to"

The above is credited to James Clear and his illuminating site, jamesclear.com/how-to-be-thankful.
I could go on and on about this, but the point of this post is to share the awesome things I get to do and remember often to be grateful because I get to do them.

You should do this, too. Try it. It feels really good.

• I get to write about falling in love.
• I get to stay home with my kids.
• I get to wake up to the sound of baby coo's and not an alarm.
• I get to take a sick day whenever I need it, regardless of whether or not I'm actually sick. 
• I get to see family whenever I want.

• I never have to say "I can't, I have to work" ever again. I shape my work around my family life.

These things mean everything to me. During this post alone I've stopped multiple times to snuggle my daughter and peeled a squished strawberry off a pillow. #momlife

The moral of the story is, change the way you see being grateful. Its isn't just about what you have, especially if what you have kinda sucks. It's ok to want more if you are willing to do the work. But don't skip over the little things. Appreciate them, feel the accomplishment they represent. They are the stepping stones to your dreams. 

I recommend reading through the list I linked above. Always make time to learn something new for your craft. Absorb what resonates with you and leave the rest.
 

Cheers,
Ella

This Is For All The Little Fish

Source: Jokeroo/Krasaveca

I just released my debut Contemporary Romance Flash Point. Yay! There was very little fan fare and as of now there has only been 4 units sold and 5 KU/KOLL units. Awesome right? Be grateful for every sale or borrow. Every reader counts.
 Financially it's a little less awesome. I jumped off a cliff into the self-publishing ocean two years ago and am still treading the vast waters.

So, what does this have to do with little fish? Well, as my current income and sales numbers prove, I am a little fish in a big ocean of self and traditionally published authors fighting for the spotlight and perhaps the person reading this is, too. How do we become big fish? If anybody has this answer please tell me.

With this new release I tried pre-orders. I discounted the pre-order price and advertised it on Facebook. I did not boost posts because I haven't heard good things about it and I can't risk wasting money I don't have. I shared on my page and profile. Results? A whopping four pre-orders. The lesson? When you are a little fish and your readership is small, pre-orders and Facebook promotion are not effective. I've come to the conclusion that what I need to focus on is writing. I can post promo's until I'm blue in the face, but only the same people will see them and those same people are not new readers.

Building a readership takes time. Time better spent writing and publishing books for readers to find, and very little of it spent on Facebook. Post occasionally about yourself, your writing, and being a genuine person for your readers to connect with, but don't expect to find new readers. I'm not saying it can't happen--its does, but your time is better spent on writing.  As for pre-orders? It doesn't hurt to do it, but it doesn't help the little fish. It was a bit stressful for me to meet that deadline. I haven't decided if I will do it again.

Flash Point pre-ordered for $ 0.99 and was set to increase to $2.99 after release, but given it's debut status and novella length I decided to keep it at $0.99. I want to find new readers and I want them to take a chance on me. $0.99 is a good price point for attracting new readers with  shorter works.

My other recent fails have been going all in with KDP Select. The numbers were pathetic. By August I will be distributing everywhere I can again. Also, doing a Kindle countdown deal was a waste. I was lucky and scored a Bookbub ad for Mine, All Mine which will feature next week and I'm praying to God that it will boost my sales back up to what they used to be. Bookbub has always been a great investment for me. It works best when you have a finished or mostly finished series and advertise the first book free. If readers like it they go on to buy the rest. If you only have one book published, try a *free promo to get readers and reviews. It's safe to say you won't get a Bookbub ad for a book with no reviews.

If you can't get an ad, and your free promo had dismal results this is what you should do.

Write. Keep writing. Publish a quality, properly edited, and formatted book with a professional cover. Try and try again. Self-publishing isn't just a marathon, it's a ultra-marathon. You could get a lightning strike and hit it big, get a book deal with the big 5, or you could gain a reader a day at a time, write to your hearts content, and build your career from the bottom like most of us are doing. The common denominator is writing. Don't stop writing.

Don't give up. Life is too short to give up on dreams and keep working a dead end job that barely pays the bills and sucks the life from you. There is no American dream, there is only YOUR dream. 

Cheers,
Ella 




*To do a free promo on Amazon without being in Kindle select you will have to have your book free on another site and the Amazon bots will find it and match it on Amazon. This can take a few days but is worth it. This is how it's done with perma free books. You can do this through Draft2Digital or Smashwords. I strongly recommend Draft2Digital over Smashwords. Smashwords is an unnecessary headache.

Going In With A Bang

As opposed to going out. Get it?

I'm releasing my debut Contemporary Romance novella 06/19/15 and I'm excited to announce this will be my first experience with pre-orders!
To add some gun powder to the mix, I'm having a pre-order sale. All pre-orders are $0.99 up until the official release of the book. Yay!
So what are you waiting for? Click me. You know you want to. ;)

It feels sooooo good to have a new release out. Finishing this novella really got my juices flowing, and I'm ready to get back in the saddle, albeit slowly. Writing in a different genre is exhilarating. Writing Cara brought out my naughty side. My heart still belongs to Historical Romance, but I'm finding my wild side with Contemporary. My heroines feel the same emotions, essentially, but express them differently. Its fun to see the differences in my writing.

More fun to come! Cheers,
Ella

Past and Present

So, after my post about not being able to write productively thanks to a new baby and some weird postpartum hormonal shifts that make romance just... meh. I've been reading to get the juices flowing and going through some of my unfinished work. I came across a story that was my attempt at Contemporary Romance. I started reading, which I can now do from my phone with the OneDrive and Microsoft Office apps. Yay! I can even edit a little.

I was pleasantly surprised. I really liked it, and thought hey, I could turn this into a short novella pretty easily. So that is what I'm doing. I'm jumping into Contemporary Romance! It's weird stepping out of the era I'm used to, but also easier. Dialogue is a breeze when I don't have to worry about what a 19th century young lady might say. I can curse, something I do frequently in my day to day, and I can pull from own experiences.

My next thought was, do I publish it under Ella J. Quince, or give myself a new pen name for any contemporary works I might publish? I'm still thinking about that. I can probably finish it today if I can just get through this sex scene, but sex scenes are the things that my tired baby focused brain just doesn't comprehend right now. I don't even enjoy reading them like I used to.

I'm a romance writer who can't write romance/sex.

This phase better pass quickly. I used to live for those moments. Either on T.V, or in a book, I loved that fluttery feeling I got every time someone fell in love. I relive those moments. It's my drug of choice. Now I'm numb to it. I skip through sex scenes in books. Let me repeat, I SKIP THROUGH SEX SCENES IN BOOKS! Who does that? Not me, that's who. But I'm not me right now, I'm someone else. I feel things differently than I did before. I cry over things I didn't use to, and I'm numb about things I used to love.

Some might say this sounds like PPD, and maybe it is, but I don't find myself sad all the time, or unable to go about my daily life. I think of it more as a mental shift in priorities. My kids are my sun  and I orbit around them. It doesn't help that after having a second baby I don't feel good about my body at all. Don't even get me started on how Dad Bod is a hot thing right now but Mom Bod isn't. I made two people in my body, but God forbid I have the rolls and stretch marks to show for it.

Rant over.

My novella is about a reclusive veterinary technician (sound like anybody you know? wink wink) who has three hunky firemen move in next door. Her saucy red head friend/ coworker convinces her to bust out of her shell and admit she likes the guy she claims she can't stand.

Without further adieu I introduce you to Cara and Dean in Flash Point
Coming soon!

I'm not ready to say this will be a series, but I am already thinking of giving the saucy red head friend her own book. Her name is Brianne, or Bri, as Cara calls her. She is afraid to give her heart away, but she is also really flirty and fun. The title of her book is Where There's Smoke. I just came up with that today, so that means I'm pretty much set on the novella, but don't ask me exactly when it's coming.

I have a soft yummy spot for firefighters. My husband is one, so that makes me a very proud firefighter wife. It's a tough job for both of us. My son is also obsessed with anything firefighter/fire engine. It was the theme of his baby bedding, so there may be some brainwashing going on. I can only hope (and fear a little) that he will follow in his daddy's foot steps.

That's all for now, folks. Cheers!

Ella